I’d like to say that I’d always planned to talk about trust in the week which saw the launch of the general election campaign in the UK …
I’d like to– but I’d be lying! If you look back to the intro to this series, or to the end of last week’s post, you’ll see this week’s was originally going to be under the theme of ‘talents’. That’s part of this topic, but I wanted to broaden the scope.
We all know, don’t we, that trust is a vital part of any personal relationship? I’d go as far as to say that without it, there is no relationship worth the name.
We instinctively trust different things to different people, of course. For instance:
The friends or relatives we choose to call on in a crisis may not be the ones we’d depend upon to keep a confidence; and when we’re looking for someone just to carry through a commitment, we might have to look somewhere else entirely!
That’s all blindingly obvious when we’re talking about personal relationships; but like so many aspects of human communication, it’s easy to lose sight of the importance of trust – in all its forms – in a professional context.
The principles running through what I’m about to say apply across the board, from marketing to delivery and from HR to PR; but for the sake of space, I’ll focus on one main example – teams.
Successful teams have to be based on mutual trust at every level.
That brings us back to this week’s original theme – and to Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
In the best teams, members (including managers) can trust one another to help meet every level of need –
From biological/physiological needs, through a healthy working environment
To self-actualisation, by making full use of their particular abilities.
The catalyst is a skill which is too often underestimated, or neglected altogether – listening.
Last week, I said that when it comes to investing in a professional relationship with a whole range of people:
‘… your story is a good place to start’ but
‘Theirs might be a better jumping-off point’.
I was planning to pick that up when we look at memory; but it comes into play here.
Julian Treasure of The Sound Agency calls listening one of the most ‘gracious’ things we can do for another person. David Isay of Storycorps echoes that idea when he talks about ‘honoring someone’ by listening to their story (the American spelling is David’s).
If concepts of ‘honor’ and gracious gifts sound a bit pink and fluffy for your taste, it’s worth remembering that investing some time, attention and energy in developing a better understanding of a team member by listening to their story, is likely to pay dividends in improved productivity, as well as loyalty and trust.
Listening, and trusting that we’ll be listened to, are obviously essential first steps towards problem-solving – which, as we saw a few weeks ago, plays a significant role in professional relationships. The returns are generally even better, though, when we make the investment at the very beginning. That way, we build trust early on – and can often stop issues ever becoming problems.
Gaining trust is hard enough. Holding on to it can be an even bigger challenge in our high-pressure, time-poor working environments. The trouble is, it usually comes down to something which ought to be boringly simple – but isn’t when our time etc is being pulled in all directions.
In a word:
Consistency – meaning what we say, saying what we mean – and delivering on our promises!
Inevitably, that drags us back (quite possibly kicking and screaming!) to all those politicians currently gearing up for 7th May.
If they really want to know how to improve public engagement, so boost voter turnout, the good news is that all they have to do is:
Listen to what we want
Trust us to understand their responses
Promise to take realistic action on the issues we raise and
Carry that promise through.
Did I say ‘all they have to do’ …?!
Actually, I’m not entirely convinced many people would vote for a truly honest candidate. It’s too easy only to like the truth when it matches our view of the world – hence the choice of ‘truths’ offered by different parties. Real trust, of the kind that exists between genuine friends and colleagues, includes telling the truth because that’s what’s needed under the circumstances – and listening to it, even when it isn’t what we want to hear.
The bad news for our would-be MPs is, that level of confidence in each other takes time to build – like the relationships it underpins – and if they haven’t built it already, five weeks isn’t going to be long enough!
Time is at the heart of next week’s theme – memory.
In the meantime, if you have any:
Questions
Comments or
Communication issues to discuss,
come and talk to me! All the details are on the website – and I still wear my old lawyer’s hat when it comes to confidentiality!
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